Parenting Insights: Words to Avoid When Complimenting Your Child

February 2, 2025 - 02:20

Dr. Becky Kennedy emphasizes the importance of language in parenting, particularly regarding the compliments we offer to our children. One common phrase that parents often use, "Good job," can inadvertently foster a reliance on external validation. This dependency might hinder a child's ability to develop intrinsic motivation and self-esteem.

Instead of relying on generic praise, Dr. Kennedy suggests that parents engage their children with open-ended questions. This technique not only promotes self-awareness but also encourages children to reflect on their own efforts and feelings about their accomplishments. By asking questions like, "What did you enjoy most about that?" or "How did you feel when you completed that task?" parents can facilitate meaningful conversations that help children recognize their own strengths and achievements.

This shift in approach not only builds a child's confidence but also nurtures a sense of pride in their individual efforts, ultimately leading to a healthier self-image and a more resilient mindset.